After getting divorced, many divorcees hear, even from well-meaning people, “Everything will be okay,” or “Keep moving forward.” But clichés that could be stitched on a pillow aren’t always the most helpful when you feel like your world is crumbling and everything is changing. Sometimes you just can’t move on, at least not alone. The purpose of post-divorce counseling is to help you navigate your feelings after separation and give you the skills to get through this traumatic event. Post-divorce counselors can be very beneficial, whether you feel like you are in a state of crisis or whether you have questions on what to do next after divorce. Here are just a few of the benefits you may experience.

Overcome Feelings

Post-divorce, you may be feeling hurt, sad, angry, or a combination of all of them. No matter the way things ended for your marriage, you still may be struggling to understand your feelings and get to a place of recovery. Sometimes it takes another person to listen and help you sort out these emotions. A post-divorce counselor is able to listen to your feelings and help you overcome and process them.

Learn to Love Yourself

When a marriage ends, it stirs up a lot of questions about who you are apart from your spouse. Divorce counseling helps you discover who you are and how you can love yourself independently from your marriage. How long has it been since you did something for yourself? What about those neglected hobbies on the shelf? Talking through these issues helps you to rediscover life apart from being married. Likewise, you may even learn new things about yourself and the way you think. By discovering yourself again through counseling, you can learn more about who you’ve become, and how you can move forward.

Be Comfortable Being Alone

Many people are apprehensive about what divorce means for their new life. Questions like, “Who am I outside of my marriage?” or “How do I parent my kids alone?” are just few of the things that seem overwhelming and scary. Post-divorce counseling can show you that life really will be okay, and that you aren’t, in fact, alone. A counselor can give you a fresh start, learning to cope with being single again.

Parenting After Divorce

How do you talk to your kids about your divorce? How can you co-parent with your ex after divorce? Trying to navigate parenting after your marriage ends can be one of the most difficult things. Post-divorce counseling can help instruct you on what to do next when you have kids. It can help with developing a parenting plan, staying out of the court room, and give you strategies to communicate with your ex about your kids. You can also take this opportunity to find out how your kids are feeling after divorce, and how to help them process their emotions. This type of coaching can also be considered co-parenting counseling.

Start dating again

At some point in time, you may be thinking, “How do I start dating after my divorce?” or “Will I ever be ready to date again?” Post-divorce counseling helps you become ready to face relationships again. Talking through anxieties about relationships and the stress of a bad relationship gives you the skills to start over when you’re ready for a better relationship.

Talk with a Post-Divorce Therapist

If you feel like the floor has been tugged out from under you, or you are feeling overwhelmed after divorce, contact In Sight Counseling Connections today. Natalie Van Note (LPC) is a post-divorce therapist in Denver, and she specializes in the acute trauma that occurs right after a divorce. We can help you feel okay after your divorce and help you plan for what life is like on your own. You are not alone in this process. Call Natalie today at 303-264-9598 or contact her today.